How To Calm Your Mind In Seconds
By Facing Your Fears
You can’t calm your mind by trying to calm your mind. In that moment, when you find yourself being consumed by your thoughts, telling your brain to calm itself down just doesn’t work, does it?
Yet, that’s the default reaction many of us have when we realize that we’re in a negative thinking, or overthinking, spiral. We scold ourselves for having whatever thoughts we’re having. We try, in vain, to redirect our thoughts. And, when that doesn’t work, we ignore our thoughts by distracting ourselves in some way.
We’ve all taken this approach before, and that’s why we all know that it’s not an effective way to calm your mind. The consuming thoughts haven’t gone away. They’re just taking a short break. They’ll creep back into your consciousness when you least expect it and at the worst possible time.
The only way to truly calm your mind is to address the root cause of the thoughts that have consumed you. But how the heck do you do that in mere seconds, as the title of this essay suggests?
Keep scrolling for the answer (which is also in the title).
Getting to the Root Cause of
You’re bound to find one thing lurking behind those nagging, unnerving, ineffectual thoughts that have sent your mind into a tailspin — fear.
Your unconscious mind has detected a threat, and, because you fear that threat, your brain has started to develop a plan to avoid the threat. Hence, the overthinking, negative thought spiral.
Here’s the thing though. The chances that this “threat” can actually cause you any real harm are probably pretty low. To prove this out, let’s consider a simple example that many of us can relate to.
You unexpectedly end up stuck in traffic. This lack of movement threatens your plans to arrive at an appointment at a certain time. Your fears set in — I’m going to disappoint people if I’m late, and it’s going to throw the rest of my day off. You start imagining how walking into the appointment late will play out. You think about how you’ll explain yourself. You watch every minute on the clock tick by.
You think your problem is the traffic, but it’s not. Your problem is the fears it is stirring up. But, are there any real threats here? Probably not. Sure, you might be embarrassed for a moment. Maybe part of your day will be a bit more hectic than you would like it to be. And then, sure enough, life will go on as usual.
The sooner you can identify, and face, the fears that are causing your negative thoughts, the sooner you can calm your mind. Your body just needs a little reassurance that there’s no immediate danger.
So, the next time you find that your thoughts are consuming you, ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?” Then, acknowledge your fear without fighting it. This simple act may just be powerful enough to calm your mind. And, with a calm mind, you can accurately assess the “threat” you are facing.
I’ve been practicing this technique recently, and it’s been very effective for me. Of course, it doesn’t work 100% of the time, and I know that it won’t always work in seconds. But, even if this technique only works to calm your mind once a day, I’d say that’s a win!
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And until next time . . . have a FEAR-FACING day!
Take a screenshot for a quick reminder of one way to calm your mind in seconds:
- Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?”
- Acknowledge your fear without fighting it.
- Calmly assess the “threat” you are facing.
HOW THE EXPECTATION GAPS WORKS
You have a knot in your stomach telling you that something is missing from your life, but you don’t know what it is. On the surface, you have everything you could ever want. Yet . . .
You’re frustrated…overwhelmed…”crazy busy”…burned out…unfulfilled…
I'VE BEEN THERE!
That’s why I’ve been focused on living with intention and becoming a Deliberate Thinker for ~ 10 years.
I want to help you with your journey by sharing mine.
Sources & Inspiration
The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself, Michael A. Singer