How to Own Your Why
5 Simple Steps
To create the fulfilling life you were meant to live — to experience lasting personal development — to meet your needs so that you can become self-actualized — you need to define your Why.
What is your Why? According to Simon Sinek, your Why is the purpose, cause, or belief that drives you.
Your Why can be used to create life-changing habits that will lead you to the life you want to live. Which is why it has to be well-defined and persuasive enough to keep you on the right path during difficult times — the times when you start doubting yourself and want to give up.
But let’s not stop at defining our Why. Let’s own it!
Think of a daily life-changing habit you would like to build into your life, and then commit to working through these 5 simple steps:
- Define what you want today. What would your life look today if you had already implemented this habit? Answering this question will give you the motivation to get started. Don’t overthink it; the answer can be completely superficial. We all respond to instant gratification, and connecting our why to today will give us a taste of that instant gratification. As soon as you feel your motivation start to wane, probably within two weeks, move on to step 2.
- Define what you want 6 months from now. Think about the benefits you will reap in the next 6 months from maintaining the daily habits you’ve been tending? And what results will these habits produce? Create an engaging, idealistic mental picture of what the results you are going to achieve look like. Go back to this mental picture when you need motivation.
- Tell people about your new habits. If you haven’t already, start spreading the word. What have you committed to doing? How are you doing it? And how have you progressed? This will accomplish 2 things. First, now that you’ve put your commitment out into the world, you’ll want to hold yourself accountable for your actions. Second, you might inspire someone else to take a positive step toward defining and owning their Why as well, and that will re-inspire you.
Keep scrolling for steps 4 and 5.
Own Your Why
Steps 4 and 5
#4 – Define what (you think) you really want long-term. When the alluring calls of your old habits start overpowering your ability to focus on the engaging, idealistic mental picture you have painted, you’ll know it’s time to dig a little deeper and ask yourself this question. How will the new habits you have created positively impact your life a year from now? 5 years from now? 20 years from now? However far out you want to look. Anchor these thoughts to two mental pictures that cause emotional responses — what your life looks like when you maintain your new habits and what your life looks like when you have broken these habits. Really focus on how you feel in each picture.
#5 – Surprise . . . we’re going to focus on today again. It’s going to take awhile to get to step 5, maybe 6 months or so. But, when you get here, you will be owning your Why! Your Why will be so ingrained in your subconscious that you won’t have to Deliberately Think about it any more. You will be present with your Why, and being present is one key to realizing your long-term goals and your full potential. And you’ve just learned how to get there, one action at a time!
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Take a screenshot to easily access the 5 steps to owning your Why:
- Define what you want today.
- Define what you want 6 months from now — paint a mental picture.
- Tell people about your new habits.
- Define what you really want long-term — attach feelings to your mental picture.
- Own your why — your why will be ingrained in your subconscious.
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