It's True! Being a Control Freak Won't
Empower You to Live With Intention
You might hear the term “live with intention” and think, “No thank you! I’m not interested in becoming a control freak.” Because it seems like that’s a prerequisite, doesn’t it?
It sounds like you have to control, i.e. be intentional, about every little thing in your life. And who has the time or energy to micromanage every aspect of their life, right?
But actually, just the opposite is true. In order to live with intention, you have to learn to let go of control. Wait, what? That’s right; you have to ignore your control freak impulses. And here’s why.
The backwards law — have you ever heard of it? It’s an idea credited to Alan Watts, which basically says that the more you strive for something, the harder it will be to obtain.
So, in accordance with this law, when you micromanage your life, you actually end up losing control. You end up forgetting your own needs, values, and dreams to the point where you are no longer in control of your life. Your life is being controlled by someone else’s expectations.
I’ve definitely been there. How about you? If so . . .
Keep scrolling to find out what it really means to live with intention.
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What It Really Means To
Live With Intention
To live with intention means that you have identified your values and beliefs, and you are striving to live according to these values and beliefs every day. And, the more you practice this way of living, which I call Deliberate Thinking, the more it becomes second nature. So much so that you feel comfortable letting go of control. Why?
Because you will be meeting your needs. And, when your needs are met, you are more resilient because you have a greater sense of belonging and an elevated level of self-esteem . Which means, you can let go of your inner control freak, avoid the backwards law, and realize your full potential!
If you’re looking for more personal development inspiration and support, you might enjoy these full-length posts:
A Practical Introduction to the Power of Intentional Living
Do You Have Control of Your Life?
Do You Really Want to Be a High Achiever?
Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions or would like me to point you in the direction of more tools you can use on your personal development journey. Here’s my email: amanda@theexpectationgaps.com.
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And until next time . . . have an INTENTIONAL day!
SCREENSHOT TIME!
Take a screenshot for a quick reminder of what it really means to live with intention:
- You have identified your values and beliefs.
- You are striving to live according to these values and beliefs every day.
- In doing so, you are meeting your needs so that you can realize your full potential.
HOW THE EXPECTATION GAPS WORKS
YOU'RE HERE
You have a knot in your stomach telling you that something is missing from your life, but you don’t know what it is. On the surface, you have everything you could ever want. Yet . . .
You’re frustrated…overwhelmed…”crazy busy”…burned out…unfulfilled…
I'VE BEEN THERE!
That’s why I’ve been focused on living with intention and becoming a Deliberate Thinker for ~ 10 years.
I want to help you with your journey by sharing mine.
PIN IT!