Set These Boundaries
Before You Chase Your Dream
Maybe you have a dream that you want to pursue. Maybe you’ve been thinking more and more about taking a leap of faith. But . . . before you chase your dream, you need to set a few personal boundaries.
Why? Because if you don’t, your dream can quickly become a nightmare and might even transform into someone else’s dream for you. This is a truth I stumbled across when I starting chasing my dream — this organization.
One of the first boundaries I set for myself had to do with money. I’ve been an accountant for 25 years and have seen firsthand how quickly money can change people, and not for the better.
I didn’t want to go down that road. So once the idea of The Expectation Gaps really started to take shape in my mind, I began to think about what I would do if I started making a significant amount of money. What would I do with the money? How would it change me? How would it change my work and my message?
That’s when I decided to organize The Expectation Gaps as a nonprofit organization. This way, I could still draw a reasonable, board-approved salary, but I would not have access to more than I needed. The money I didn’t need would go to a good cause. And . . . I could work for a nonprofit organization, something I’d always seen myself doing at some point.
Now that’s a win, win, win situation right there! And you can create a win, win, win situation when you chase your dream by setting these boundaries:
- How much money do you need? My guess is, you probably need a lot less than you think. That’s what I’ve found personally. You then need to ask yourself, what will I do with any money in excess of what I need. Think this through before you have the money in hand. That way you won’t find yourself sacrificing your dream to chase money you don’t even need. (I’ve created a worksheet to help you calculate how much money you need. There’s a link to it at the end of this post.)
- How much time are you willing to spend? There’s a good chance that chasing your dream will start to consume you. You’ll find yourself working toward your dream every second of the day if you don’t set some boundaries on your time from the start. Maybe you’re okay with that, but you want to make that choice intentionally. Otherwise, you could be heading for burn out and ruined relationships.
Keep scrolling for boundary #3.
#3 – What’s your why? You’re going to need a well-defined why before you chase your dream. You’re going to need to come back to it often to make sure your dream isn’t turning into a nightmare or into someone else’s dream. You’re going to have to make some tough decisions, and you’re going to be getting a lot of advice from people who all think they know what’s best for your dream. Your why will help you sift through all that outside noise so that you can stay true to your dream.
Could you use some guidance to define your why? Great! Take advantage of this post and the FREE worksheet that comes with it: Own Your “Why” – 5 Simple Steps
To figure out how much money you need, take advantage of these posts:
And, you might find this post helpful as well:
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If you’re ready to Stop Settling & Start Living! check out our home page to learn more about what The Expectation Gaps has to offer.
And until next time . . . have a DREAM-CHASING day!
Take a screenshot to easily access the 3 boundaries you should set before you chase your dream:
- How much money do I need? What will I do with any excess?
- How much time am I willing to spend? How will I manage my time?
- What is my why? The reason I am chasing my dream.
HOW THE EXPECTATION GAPS WORKS
You’re Fed Up With Mediocrity & Want to Make an Impact
You’re frustrated…overwhelmed…”crazy busy”…burned out…unfulfilled…
I'VE BEEN THERE!
I’ve been focused on becoming a Deliberate Thinker for ~10 years.
I want to help you with your journey by sharing mine.
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