Am I With the Right Person – 3 Questions to Ask Yourself

I think we’ve all asked ourselves this question. Whether you’ve been in your relationship for a week or a decade, it’s only natural to wonder, “Is this really the right person for me?”

I started thinking about this question recently because my 16-year-old step-daughter, who is navigating her first serious relationship, asked me, “How do you know if you’re supposed to be with someone forever?” To which I answered, “You don’t. But if you think you’re with the right person, it’s worth trying. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll be just fine.” Of course there was more to the conversation, but you get the idea.

And, the thought was in my mind because I just published a post, 5 Reasons Your Personal Growth Can’t Be All About You, that discusses meeting our love/belonging needs. Don’t get me wrong; I don’t think you have to be in a romantic relationship to meet your love/belonging needs. But . . . I do think that if you’re in a romantic relationship, you need to Deliberately Think about whether or not you’re with the right person so you can meet your love/belonging needs.

Okay, enough backstory. Onto the 3 questions you can intentionally ask yourself to figure out if you’re with the right person.

1. Does this person have similar priorities? – Especially when it comes to children/family, household responsibilities, money, and career. Let’s face it, these are the things that typically drive a wedge between people. That wedge can lead to resentment, and even the right person can quickly become the wrong person.
2. Does this person make you feel good about yourself? Do you like who you are when you’re with them? Do they bring out the best in you or the worst you in? Even though your worst self is going to surface from time to time, the right person will bring out the best you more often than not.

Keep scrolling for the 3rd question.