Benefits: Discover 5 aspects of your personal growth that you simply can’t attain alone.
So That You Can: Reach your personal growth goals.
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5 Reasons Your Personal Growth Can't Be All About You
I don’t care how introverted you are, you can’t reach your personal growth goals alone. Partly because you are going to need help (everyone does!) and partly because some of your needs can only be met through building relationships with other people.
In my last post, “5 Superpowers You Gain by Spending Time Alone”, we learned that you have to spend time alone in order to meet your personal growth goals. True enough, but, as the title says, your personal growth can’t be all about you. You have to focus some of your personal growth efforts on building relationships — together time.
You might be shaking your head right now and thinking, “Seriously, Amanda! I was just getting used to the idea of developing my superpowers by spending time alone, and now you’re telling me to do just the opposite? Ay Ay Ay!!!”
No, I’m not. I’m saying that you have to find a balance. Finding your ideal balance is going to require some trial and error, but here’s a clue to help you know where to start. If you’re an introvert, you replenish your energy by spending time alone, so your scales will be tipped more toward alone time. And, of course, the opposite is true for extroverts.
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What Are These Needs That You Speak Of?
If you’re familiar with my work, you may know that I’m kind of an Abraham Maslow fangirl (if there were such a thing). The mission and philosophy of The Expectation Gaps was influenced by his work, and I’ve written many posts that use his Hierarchy of Needs as a jumping off point. (This is going to be another one ?.) That’s why the needs that I’m speaking of are those outlined by Maslow, as depicted below.
You will probably need some help from other people to meet your most basic needs — physiological and safety. But, meeting your Love and Belonging needs will most definitely require some together time.
In fact, I believe that our inability to meet our Love and Belonging needs is what keeps us from realizing our full potential (self-actualization) — we remain stuck in the Expectation Gap. Which is why it is so important to focus some of our personal growth efforts on together time.
The 5 Reasons You Need Together Time
Before I list the reasons, it’s important to note that your together time shouldn’t be spent with just anyone. You want to be sure you’re spending it with your green flag people (click here if you’re not sure what this means).
While you’re with these green flag people, you’ll be able to focus on 5 aspects of your personal growth that simply can’t be attained alone. During your together time you can:
- Practice setting manageable expectations.
- Learn from someone else’s experiences.
- Practice empathy.
- Serve others.
- Fulfill your Love/Belonging need.
For fun (yes, fun ?), let’s examine each aspect in relation to the components of The Cycle of Deliberate Thinking. Why? Because I believe embracing The Cycle can lead us to the fulfilling life we were meant to live, and I want to offer as much proof as I can to support this philosophy.
Aspect #1 - Practice Setting Manageable Expectations
Component = Examine Expectations
Aspect #2 - Learn From Someone Else’s Experiences
Component = Stay Curious!
Aspect #3 - Practice Empathy
Component = Respect Other Points of View
Aspect #4 - Serve Others
Component = Personify Core Values
Aspect #5 - Fulfill Your Love/Belonging Need
Component = Execute With Intention
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