Yes, You Can Be a
You don’t have to be the most charismatic speaker, or the most eloquent speaker, or the most engaging speaker. Maybe you’ll never be any of these things, and maybe you’re perfectly fine with that. But, yes, you can still be a confident speaker!
Being a confident speaker is important in all aspects of your life. I could probably name 100 reasons this statement is true, but let’s focus on just one today.
- You have to be a confident speaker if you want to meet your needs. (You know, those basic human needs outlined by my buddy, Abraham Maslow.) And you have to meet your needs in order to realize your full potential.
In a nutshell, the realization of your personal development goals depends on your ability to confidently express your needs, boundaries, and expectations.
I’m going to give you a behind-the-scenes look at how I’ve become a more confident speaker over the past year and a half, (yes, I’m trying to make it sound more remarkable than it really is ?) but first, I want to share an observation that I’ve made with you.
This observation might reduce a bit of the self-doubt that is leading you to believe you’ll never be a confident speaker.
- Most of the people I consider to be highly intelligent — Elon Musk, Noam Chomsky, Jordan Peterson, Abraham Maslow, and Carl Jung, to name a few — are not charismatic, eloquent, or particularly engaging in the delivery of their words.
Why? Because they are not linear thinkers. Meaning, they draw conclusions from unrelated concepts or ideas. So, as their brains are formulating a sentence, it is, at the same time, scanning its database for other concepts or ideas that might make that sentence more complete or meaningful.
The result? Their speech is usually more drawn out. They may correct themselves quite often. And, their message may take a few twists and turns as it makes its way to you. And yet, they are all very confident speakers with very important messages to deliver.
Keep scrolling for that behind-the-scenes look I promised.
How Did I Become a
Okay, first of all, I have a confession to make. I don’t consider myself to be a confident speaker on par with the likes of Elon Musk, Noam Chomsky, etc. . . . yet! But I have made gigantic strides over the past year and a half, and here’s how:
- Practice writing essays on a consistent basis. And, maybe even more important, edit your writing. That’s when you’ll really get better at forming coherent and concise thoughts, which will help you express yourself confidently. As my main man, Jordan Peterson once said,
The best way to teach people critical thinking is to teach them to write.
- Get in front of a camera. Record yourself speaking. Even if you have no plans to show it to anyone. Even if you delete the recording as soon as you hit stop. It doesn’t matter! Going through this exercise, on a consistent basis, will increase your speaking confidence, without a doubt. And all you have to do is pull out your phone and hit record — simple!
You can become a confident speaker by becoming a Deliberate Thinker, and I’m here to help you every step of the way! You just have to commit to the process. From there, I have tons of resources that will help through the process.
Plus, if you reach out to me, I’ll tell you exactly which resource you should utilize next. You don’t even have to think about it. But, you do have to realize that you’re worth it, and make the ask! Here’s my email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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And until next time . . . have a CONFIDENCE-BUILDING day!
Take a screenshot to easily access these reminders about being a confident speaker:
You don’t have to be:
- Or Engaging to be confident.
You do have to:
- Practice writing and editing essays (which can be about anything that you want).
- Practice recording yourself speaking in front of a camera.
HOW THE EXPECTATION GAPS WORKS
You’re Fed Up With Mediocrity & Want to Make an Impact
You’re frustrated…overwhelmed…”crazy busy”…burned out…unfulfilled…
I'VE BEEN THERE!
I’ve been focused on becoming a Deliberate Thinker for ~10 years.
I want to help you with your journey by sharing mine.
Sources & Inspiration